I still haven't had a "proper" experience yet, asspaddling, but you know I'm looking to.
I can't say exactly how I will respond to it when I finally get it. I do have a hunch that Sigmund Freud will be laughing at me from his grave when it happens, though, but if he does, I'll probably just smile back to him.
Now if I were doing the spanking, I think I'd like a combination of the two, but my goal is not so much to inflict pain as much as to have fun spanking somebody (and hopefully they have fun in the process too in receiving). I've only, to date, had one such experience, and because of the specific circumstances involved, it could not be a bare bottom spanking (fully clothed, long story which I won't explain here, so don't ask), pity that, but it seemed to be as enjoyable to the recipient as it was to me to give it. She was genuinely smiling when I offered up the idea of a birthday spanking and carried it out with her willing participation. She was smiling even more once I had completed it. She agreed to receive it on the condition that she be permitted to give me a similar birthday spanking when my birthday rolled around. She was a few days late in giving it to me though. Perhaps I should have spanked her for that.
She also didn't spank me hard enough, and I doubt she had any idea how hard I really wanted to be spanked!